Tips for long-lasting relationships
Love is a wonderful thing...
...but sometimes relationships need a little help. The day to day stresses of working, bringing up children, caring for older relatives or money worries can cause tensions. So how do you deal with them? And what are the secrets of being happy together for years to come?
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Maureen and Leo's tips for long-lasting relationships
Try to see things from your partner’s point of view. Have some empathy and understand what’s happening in their lives.
If you’ve made a mistake, say sorry. Don’t sulk!
It’s easy to stop communicating so make time to talk – and listen - to each other. If you’ve got young children you often talk about them but not each other so make a point of finding out how each other’s days have been.
Being best friends - I’ve been married before and Alan was the only one I was friends with before we got together. We were friends for about 18 months and it’s made a real difference to our relationship. We don’t always share the same taste in music or have the same views but we accept that we’re never going to agree."
Carol, 69. Married for 16 years
The secret of a successful relationship is give and take. One of you can’t rule the roost. You have to listen to each other and take each other’s advice.
George, 96. Married for 61 years
We met at school. He went into the Royal Air Force as part of his National Service and I really missed him. We wrote each lots of letters.Times were hard when we were first married but you had to just keep going. There’s a lot of give and take and we never row. But I did once throw a saucepan at him in a fit of rage!
Enid and Ron, both in their 80s. Married for 60 years.
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